Good for you for taking that step!

The first step is hard but you have take it and that’s a great start, and I am thrilled you are taking that step.

But I want to talk to you about what may happen if want a relationship so much that you are not thinking clearly.

The Overwhelming Desire To Find A Relationship Through Online Dating May Stop You Finding One. Why?

If there is anything that I have realized in my life is that when you push to get something you want, I mean really push, over and over again, the chances of you getting it are slim. I have come to the conclusion that you have to be in the right ‘space’ or it will not happen. Pushing for something does not help.

You need to take your time, not push. That includes a relationship.

So let’s say you see someone on an online dating site that interests you. You connect and talk, you may even make a date.   The date seems to go well so you go on another date.

Then…

Have you noticed that you meet someone, you go on a date, or two, things seem to be going well and then it turns bad? Have you wondered why?

I did too.

We do the ‘dates’, we try to make our new partner happy but it doesn’t work. We give up and try again only to find that that we are still sitting in the same spot.

So now what?

I found myself in this position many years ago and it took me a long time to actually look inside to try and find the answer.  What I realized was that for me, personally, was that I had been involved with ‘bad boys’. Not ‘bad boys’ in the sense of men that did bad or illegal things, but just not very nice guys. Sure at first they had all the charm but that soon disappeared to show their true colors.

It wasn’t until I came to the realization that I had to change – that if I wanted a good and loving relationship I had to change inside – I had to change me.

Who are you looking for?

Take time to look at who you are, what you have been through, what you won’t accept in a relationship and what you want in a relationship.

So, I have to tell you that the push to continue dating may not be the right answer, at least not yet. It’s time to not only realize that you are worthy of being loved and cared for and not being hurt by someone just because you want a relationship, but also believing that and not accepting anything less.

Try this first through online dating.

When it comes to connections and only have ‘friend’ connections. Those can be very helpful in your process as long as you, and your connection, understand. Stand back and look at these ‘connections’. Are you seeing a pattern, are they similar to previous relationships you have had. If you find that is not the case your ‘connections’ can even help you see who you really are – and – that you deserve a good relationship.

Take the time to know you, care about you and, yes even love you, then you can actually do that with someone you meet online, and they will return it. Know that you deserve a good relationship!