Many boomers haven’t dated in years.
The first connection, the first person that sends you a message, when you are online dating can be very exciting, and very scary.
So how do you handle it?
My advice is to first check out who the connection is from. Is he/she someone that you think you might be attracted to after seeing their picture? Is he/she someone you might want to talk to after reading their profile?
Looks Good?
Well then you have to decide how you are going to handle the first contact, because that is very important.
So…
– If you are a bit shy, or new to online dating, say something like ‘Thank you for contacting me, how are you?’ and wait to hear back.
– If you feel a bit nervous then say something like ‘I’m glad you connected, tell me about yourself’ and let them get back to you.
– If you are confident then say something like “I say your picture, looking good! Let’s chat”
If it’s a connection that feels good then go with it.
So if someone connects with you, and you like their picture, and their profile, and their message touched something inside of you that made you feel good then give send an answer back that helps your connection process along. Say something like “Love your picture and profile. Looks like we have the same interest in music, well except for … Oh and that cat video was too funny. Let’s chat”. Be sure to say something that they would need to respond to so you can keep the chat going.
Don’t be afraid to be more ‘out there’ than you normally would be.
Have a bit of fun, after all they don’t know you and you don’t know them and no one is going to come knocking on your door and say you are arrested for a bad pun 🙂
The start of online dating for boomers should be fun and not fear.
Give it a go. Meet people. Have some laughs, and hook up with like minded boomers that make you feel good. We all want to find someone to spend time with, and hopefully a good time. Remember at this point you haven’t set a time to meet, a date, so just enjoy yourself, don’t worry about the next step yet.
