Take the time to find out if you could make a connection with someone
I was talking to a friend the other day about online dating. She said she had tried it, a bit, looked around, a bit, but really didn’t think it would work for her.
At 70 she felt that she could meet someone through her entrepreneur work events, or through friends, or meet ups with colleagues.
I was happy she felt that those connections might work, but in truth I did not believe that was the way to find the partner she was hoping for.
Why?
– age has a lot to do with connections. Men at 70 looking have a better chance than women at 70 looking because men at that age usually have a better financial picture.
– most work events are just that, work. Most people do not even think of anything other than what needs to be done, what they may need you to do, etc.
– a social event of friends can create a problem when they are all couples and you are the only single female.
We chatted about all of these and she still said she felt she would be more likely to find a love connection in person rather than online.
… And I’m thinking… How’s that working out so far after 30 some odds years of trying it ‘your way’?
The answer is, it’s not working.
Does it have to do with the age and new technology? No, she is very technological suave.
I think it really goes back to the time of life when you met someone at school, or in a ice cream parlor, or out for a walk, etc. That just doesn’t happen as much anymore in this day and age.
Sigh! I wish I could help her out of this rut and be more adventurous, try out a different approach and give online dating a whirl.
As someone who found my love through online dating I really believe that boomers and seniors who want to find a connection need to reach out this way. It may be easy to meet people in your age range in different situations, but to connect with them isn’t.
So my advice to my friend was to take that step to sign up at an online dating site. Just have a look around, talk to men. If all you do is make friends in the beginning than you are a step away from being alone. And if any of these friends you meet want to meet in person than you are in an even better place. From there you never know what will come of the meeting.
It could be the first day of the rest of your life with him.
How do I know? Well I met my husband through online dating when I was 50. We just celebrated our15th wedding anniversary!
